“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.”
― Lao Tzu
"Love is a decision. Not an emotion.”
― Lao Tzu
"Confidence and love alone cast out fear."
- Ernest Holmes
"The mysterious energy of Love is the active principle of unity. Everything loves, and
everything responds to love."
“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.”
— Oscar Wilde
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu
“Love is an action, never simply a feeling.”
— Sir Bell Hooks
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.”
– Mark Twain
"Love will find a perfect way."
- Ernest Holmes
“As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.”
– John Green
“Loved you yesterday, love you still, always have, always will.”
– Elaine Davis
“I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect and I loved you even more.”
– Angelita Lim
“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.”
– Elizabeth Barrett Browning
“Thinking of you keeps me awake. Dreaming of you keeps me asleep. Being with you keeps me alive.”
“I need you like a heart needs a beat.”
“When I say I love you more, I don’t mean I love you more than you love me. I mean I love you more than the bad days ahead of us, I love you more than any fight we will ever have. I love you more than the distance between us, I love you more than any obstacle that could try and come between us. I love you the most.”
”I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self respect. And it’s these things I’d believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn’t all she should be. I love her and it is the beginning of everything.”
– F. Scott Fitzgerald
“I swear I couldn’t love you more than I do right now, and yet I know I will tomorrow.”
– Leo Christopher
“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”
– A. A. Milne
“A man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him.”
– Brendan Francis
”I love you as certain dark things are to be loved, in secret, between the shadow and the soul.”
– Pablo Neruda
”Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.”
– Oscar Wilde
“You make me want to be a better man.”
– Melvin Udall
“There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”
– Sarah Dessen
“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
– Robert A. Heinlein
“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.”
– Anais Nin
“He is not a lover who does not love forever.”
“To love is to burn, to be on fire.”
– Jane Austen
“Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.”
– James Baldwin
“In the end we discover that to love and let go can be the same thing.”
– Jack Kornfield
“Pleasure of love lasts but a moment. Pain of love lasts a lifetime.”
– Bette Davis
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
– C.S. Lewis
“Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused.”
– Paulo Coelho
“Love is so short, forgetting is so long.”
– Pablo Neruda
“Love is a thing that is full of cares and fears.”
“Love is not love until love’s vulnerable.”
– Theodore Roethke
“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
– Dr. Seuss
“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
– Pablo Neruda
“Love is like the wind, you can’t see it but you can feel it.”
– Nicholas Sparks
“Love is the magician that pulls man out of his own hat.”
– Ben Hecht
“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.”
– Noah from The Notebook
“I would rather spend one lifetime with you, than face all the ages of this world alone.”
– J.R.R. Tolkien
“To be your friend was all I ever wanted; to be your lover was all I ever dreamed.”
– Valerie Lombardo
”My wish is that you may be loved to the point of madness.”
– André Breton
”A purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.”
– Kurt Vonnegut
”Romance is the glamour which turns the dust of everyday life into a golden haze.”
– Elinor Glyn
”Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.”
– 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“Love is the strange bewilderment which overtakes one person on account of another person.”
– James Thurber
“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.”
“Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you.”
– William Arthur Ward
“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”
– Andre Gide
“This has been my life; I found it worth living.”
– Bertrand Russell
“We must be our own before we can be another’s.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”
“Let the beauty of what you love be what you do.”
“Only true love can fuel the hard work that awaits you.”
– Tom Freston
“Love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well.”
– Vincent van Gogh
“Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there’s love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.”
– Ella Fitzgerald
“Pursue some path, however narrow and crooked, in which you can walk with love and reverence.”
– Henry David Thoreau
“Do what you love, and you will find the way to get it out to the world.”
– Judy Collins
“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
“Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting.”
– William Shakespeare
“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
– Marilyn Monroe
“I have decided to stick to love; hate is too great a burden to bear.”
– Martin Luther King, Jr.
“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return.”
– Natalie Cole
“I hope you know that every time I tell you to get home safe, stay warm, have a good day, or sleep well what I am really saying is I love you. I love you so damn much that it is starting to steal other words’ meanings. ”
“The greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being.”
– Dalai Lama
“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”
– William Shakespeare
“You call it madness, but I call it love.”
– Don Byas
“We can only learn to love by loving.”
– Iris Murdoch
“A life lived in love will never be dull.”
– Leo Buscaglia
“Life is the flower for which love is the honey.”
– Victor Hugo
“All you need is love.”
– Paul McCartney
“True love stories never have endings.”
– Richard Bach
“Love is shown more in deeds than in words.”
– Saint Ignatius
“Love is not a volunteer thing.”
– Samuel Richardson
“Love is friendship on fire.”
– Susan Sontag
“Love is the ultimate expression of the will to live.”
– Tom Wolfe
“Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.”
– Franklin P. Jones
“The love we give away is the only love we keep.”
– Elbert Hubbard
“Tell me whom you love and I will tell you who you are.”
“Trust your intuition and be guided by love.”
– Charles Eisenstein
“That’s all nonviolence is – organized love.”
– Joan Baez
“We love because it’s the only true adventure.”
– Nikki Giovanni
“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching, Love like you’ll never be hurt, Sing like there’s nobody listening, And live like it’s heaven on earth.”
– William W. Purkey
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
– Martin Luther King Jr.
“Age does not protect you from love, but love to some extent protects you from age.”
– Jeanne Moreau
“Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.”
– Washington Irving
“Life is the first gift, love is the second, and understanding the third.”
– Marge Piercy
“You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.”
– Barbara De Angelis
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”
– Elizabeth Gilbert
”I’m here. I love you. I don’t care if you need to stay up crying all night long, I will stay with you. There’s nothing you can ever do to lose my love. I will protect you until you die, and after your death I will still protect you. I am stronger than depression and I am braver than loneliness and nothing will ever exhaust me.”
– Elizabeth Gilbert
“Love is the emblem of eternity; it confounds all notion of time; effaces all memory of a beginning, all fear of an end.”
– Madame de Stael
“Love is an emotion experienced by the many and enjoyed by the few.”
– George Jean Nathan
“Love is more than a noun – it is a verb; it is more than a feeling – it is caring, sharing, helping, sacrificing.”
– William Arthur Ward
“Love is a choice you make from moment to moment.”
– Barbara De Angelis
“We need not think alike to love alike.”
– Francis David
“Love is a great master. It teaches us to be what we never were.”
“Love is the expansion of two natures in such fashion that each include the other, each is enriched by the other.”
– Felix Adler
“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.”
– Antoine de Saint-Exupery
“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profundity. Kindness in giving creates love.”
– Lao Tzu
“When our community is in a state of peace, it can share that peace with neighboring communities, and so on. When we feel love and kindness towards others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.”
– Dalai Lama
“Love is sharing your popcorn.”
– Charles Schultz
“Love is being stupid together.”
– Paul Valery
“If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?”
– Lily Tomlin
“Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.”
– Albert Einstein
“Love is like pi – natural, irrational, and very important.”
– Lisa Hoffman
“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.”
– Robert Fulghum
“Love is something sent from heaven to worry the hell out of you.”
– Dolly Parton
(Written in September 2020 on the shores of the Pacific)
Woke up this morning and this is what I was compelled to write:
“Each time we rise from the ashes, our wings of love grow bigger. It is the ultimate choice of self-love when we rise again. Then we take flight in that love and soar through the sky where our wings release seeds of love that scatter and plant in places you may never know or see but where love is needed. The seeds find their home and you gifted the bloom of love for many by blooming in love of self.
You’re allowed to leave any story you don’t find yourself in. You’re allowed to leave any story you don’t love yourself in.
You’re allowed to leave a city that has dimmed your light instead of making you shine brighter. You’re allowed to pack all your bags and start over somewhere else and you’re allowed to redefine the meaning of your life.
You’re allowed to quit the job you hate even if the world tells you not to and you’re allowed to search for something that makes you look forward to tomorrow and to the rest of your life.
You’re allowed to leave someone you love if they’re treating you poorly, you’re allowed to put yourself first if you’re settling and you’re allowed to walk away when you’ve tried over and over again but nothing has changed
You’re allowed to let toxic friends go, you’re allowed to surround yourself with love, and people who encourage and nurture you. You’re allowed to pick the kind of energy you need in your life.
You’re allowed to forgive yourself for your biggest and smallest mistakes and you’re allowed to be kind to yourself, you’re allowed to look in the mirror and actually like the person you see.
You’re allowed to set yourself free from your own expectations.
We sometimes look at leaving as a bad thing or associate it with giving up or quitting, but sometimes leaving is the best thing you can do for yourself.
Leaving allows you to change directions, to start over, to rediscover yourself and the world. Leaving sometimes saves you from staying stuck in the wrong place with the wrong people.
Leaving opens a new door for change, growth, opportunities and redemption.
You always have the choice to leave until you find where you belong and what makes you happy.
You’re even allowed to leave the old you behind and reinvent yourself.
Author: Rania Naim
I was still determined to pull the overgrown weeds in my moms garden months after she passed from Covid-19.
Nothing with strangle Love ever again.
I just looked down at my flip-flops and realize they say love. Yes, I do walk in love. Every step.
It’s not only seeing the beauty between the raindrops
It’s seeing the beauty in the raindrops
Even when the raindrops are our tears.
– Lori Freed
‘I watched in loneliness as many fell away during my grief.
I felt sadness as many ran away from my Love. Both are uncomfortable to many.
But if you embrace both, you will be free. Don’t run from freedom. It is what you have longed for. It is ‘Home.’
It is mornings like these that my phone decided I want to see a photo memory that it chooses not.
In July 2011, I had already learned my son Elijah would not live. This photo is from taking him in uterine and my young daughter to Hawaii. To show him the beauty and the rainbows while within me.
Waking up to this one from July 2011 after a meltdown of grief night – I feel kinda numb to be honest.
Yea- I am not feeling all the beauty and rainbows this morning from being exhausted from the gut-wrenching tsunami tears last night – however, I know that feeling of beauty is waiting for me to get up out of bed and use my tears to water, “The Loving Garden” to let this very representation of love bloom on to help others in the dire need I knew and know.
Get up Lori.
Rise and Bloom Love On.
– Lori Freed
Less than 5 weeks before The Loving Garden is to open its gates on Valentine’s Day 2021, pulling out my reserves of strength and courage to keep facing the memories, the reminders rising to the surface every moment, the truth of my life of losing my son and so many of my loves… can Love get me to the gate doors?
I’m already on my knees. I must give greater purpose to the pain, I must let others know they do not walk on their knees alone and help them rise and bloom in our greatest power and healer.
I always believed in Love.
Sitting with the owner of the Hurricane Maria dismantled property, it reminds me of my friend in Malibu of her property turning to ash during the wildfires. Also sitting there, amongst the piles of soot reflective of my own life at the time. Now sitting here 2 years later amongst the destruction of this dear soul’s life and talking about rebuilding, which again reminds me of where I am at in my own life after my personal hurricane of 2020 that felt like I died multiple times.
The loss of self from a relationship that left me a carcass, the actions, one I love so much pushing me away, the horrific death of my mother from Covid-19 and even more horrific actions – The inactions of those that supposedly loved my mother, a disastrous flood in her homes after she passed, losing my location of living in California, living financially on a shoestring with no unemployment help or stipend check help because I was in a loophole and too exhausted from grief and zig zagging cross country for my moms affairs to even deal with shambles of my own life during a deadly pandemic and being immune compromised. Oh, there is more to 2020 so much more but this entry would become a book unto itself.Read more
Back to these women and the metaphor…
To rebuild these structures and also businesses they created, to rebuild their hearts and their emotional devastation is a fear unlike any other of multi levels of grief-our homes, our structures. They are our havens. They are supposed to be our safety and security. They store the halls of our memories and experiences and they are a financial security for some. In a moment we cannot control, they are washed away or burnt away. They leave the identity of self in ruin as well.
The walls we all build, metaphorically or physical walls, are for purpose, for protection is a big one. We become exposed when our structures of what we built are swept away leaving us exposed to the elements and the masses of those who stand in judgmental and whispering eyes.
Then our fear instills, we don’t want to be seen as anything less than strong, as strong as the supposed structures we built.
The strength it takes to stand in this nakedness is not materials, is not a blanket to cover our raw truth and grief – it is the strength and power of the other ‘home’ the other structure we all forgot too often – ourselves- our true Home here. And that houses our real selves- love. The very walls that came furiously down on us do not make who we are, they do not define us- they were really only temporary anyway- we judge hedge our bets they will outlive us.
What is always left standing at any moment after an annihilation is our superpower, “LOVE.” Nobody and nothing can take this home away! IF we don’t allow it.
Knowing that nothing defines a person more than them knowing they are worthy of love and have always, always been love until the world touched us in ways that felt less than this love and we conformed to other feelings and ways of living in the world in order to survive.
In order to build – no rebuild- but build from the strongest foundation – it’s starts with self and being love to your own self regardless of any eyes upon us. It is not selfish – and anyone who says it is does not love their own self. It is necessary to remember if we always love others because they are worthy of it/ why would it not be ok to be worthy of our own love too? It has been ass backwards for so long- excuse my language.
If we love ourselves enough to tell ourselves- these walls no more won’t stop me – because they are no more – what I have to build upon now is the foundation of love – and in that energy feeling – yes the help will come, the money will come, the peace will come. Fear and anger will keep us standing in the middle of the wreckage and weakens our driving force.
It is standing in this very wreckage of rotted wood or piles of ashes called our life – be it a home, a relationship, a loss of someone, a job…that we still have the breath of life for a reason – and if you are reading this then consider
Yourself blessed because you obviously have more purpose in your life to complete/ you ain’t done yet.
If we ourselves withstood what destroyed all else- then that is evidence we are meant to rise up, carry on- and show our true strength, our real selves – the truth of just how loved we are that we withstood the force that took all else away. Can you own this truth? It took me a seriously long time to accept I had more strength in me than I knew, more courage, and most of all…more love. I found the courage to love myself when the shattering of everything and everyone in my life and grief was trying to tell me otherwise. I no longer listened to what weakened me-I was pretty much left with no choice but to trust the love I kept hidden out of fear of rejection and accusations and shame.
I chose again. I chose my truth of who and what I am and have always been, my hidden away superpower, “Love.”
If we choose to see through these eyes, these perceptions – there is purpose to our pain – then we pull our bootstraps up, put our big girl- and boy- pants on, expand our arms (wings as I call them) even bigger and declare – ‘Watch out, my true power now leads.” I know I deserve to remember what I am, LOVE. And Love is our greatest strength, our greatest healer, and our greatest truth.
Build from the power of the real YOU.
(In a bow to my dear friends Bibi and Karen – 2 of the strongest women I know. Both rising in their truth and power of Love to rise and build from the wreckage and ash.)
Love On ladies!
I wrote this almost 2 years ago on a road trip through Tennessee when my heart was breaking because so much love is falling away and I forgot to love myself.
For you, I’d climb the mountain
I’d run, I’d crawl, I’d fall.
For you, my love, I’d carry you
through it all
Cuz After all…
You are the song
You are the summit of our lives
Won’t you sing to me
Sing with me
For our love…
With every breathe I inhale your memory
We are meant to be.
For you, I’d give my wings
To fly beyond the mountain high
And take you Home…
Cuz You are the song
You are the summit of our lives
Won’t you sing to me
Sing with me
For our love
With every breath, I inhale your memory…
We are meant to be
No matter where you go…
I hope you
-Lori Freed copyright 2019
In honor of Self Love, A Mother’s Love, A Daughter’s Love, A Soul’s Love, One Love.