“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.”
― Lao Tzu
"Love is a decision. Not an emotion.”
― Lao Tzu
"Confidence and love alone cast out fear."
- Ernest Holmes
"The mysterious energy of Love is the active principle of unity. Everything loves, and
everything responds to love."
“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.”
— Oscar Wilde
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu
“Love is an action, never simply a feeling.”
— Sir Bell Hooks
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear – not absence of fear.”
– Mark Twain
"Love will find a perfect way."
- Ernest Holmes
“As he read, I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.”
– John Green
“Loved you yesterday, love you still, always have, always will.”
– Elaine Davis
“I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect and I loved you even more.”
– Angelita Lim
“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.”
– Elizabeth Barrett Browning
“Thinking of you keeps me awake. Dreaming of you keeps me asleep. Being with you keeps me alive.”
“I need you like a heart needs a beat.”
“When I say I love you more, I don’t mean I love you more than you love me. I mean I love you more than the bad days ahead of us, I love you more than any fight we will ever have. I love you more than the distance between us, I love you more than any obstacle that could try and come between us. I love you the most.”
”I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self respect. And it’s these things I’d believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn’t all she should be. I love her and it is the beginning of everything.”
– F. Scott Fitzgerald
“I swear I couldn’t love you more than I do right now, and yet I know I will tomorrow.”
– Leo Christopher
“If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.”
– A. A. Milne
“A man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him.”
– Brendan Francis
”I love you as certain dark things are to be loved, in secret, between the shadow and the soul.”
– Pablo Neruda
”Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.”
– Oscar Wilde
“You make me want to be a better man.”
– Melvin Udall
“There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”
– Sarah Dessen
“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
– Robert A. Heinlein
“Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.”
– Anais Nin
“He is not a lover who does not love forever.”
“To love is to burn, to be on fire.”
– Jane Austen
“Love does not begin and end the way we seem to think it does. Love is a battle, love is a war; love is a growing up.”
– James Baldwin
“In the end we discover that to love and let go can be the same thing.”
– Jack Kornfield
“Pleasure of love lasts but a moment. Pain of love lasts a lifetime.”
– Bette Davis
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”
– C.S. Lewis
“Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused.”
– Paulo Coelho
“Love is so short, forgetting is so long.”
– Pablo Neruda
“Love is a thing that is full of cares and fears.”
“Love is not love until love’s vulnerable.”
– Theodore Roethke
“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
– Dr. Seuss
“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
– Pablo Neruda
“Love is like the wind, you can’t see it but you can feel it.”
– Nicholas Sparks
“Love is the magician that pulls man out of his own hat.”
– Ben Hecht
“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.”
– Noah from The Notebook
“I would rather spend one lifetime with you, than face all the ages of this world alone.”
– J.R.R. Tolkien
“To be your friend was all I ever wanted; to be your lover was all I ever dreamed.”
– Valerie Lombardo
”My wish is that you may be loved to the point of madness.”
– André Breton
”A purpose of human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved.”
– Kurt Vonnegut
”Romance is the glamour which turns the dust of everyday life into a golden haze.”
– Elinor Glyn
”Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.”
– 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“Love is the strange bewilderment which overtakes one person on account of another person.”
– James Thurber
“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.”
“Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you.”
– William Arthur Ward
“It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.”
– Andre Gide
“This has been my life; I found it worth living.”
– Bertrand Russell
“We must be our own before we can be another’s.”
– Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”
“Let the beauty of what you love be what you do.”
“Only true love can fuel the hard work that awaits you.”
– Tom Freston
“Love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is done well.”
– Vincent van Gogh
“Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do. Where there’s love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.”
– Ella Fitzgerald
“Pursue some path, however narrow and crooked, in which you can walk with love and reverence.”
– Henry David Thoreau
“Do what you love, and you will find the way to get it out to the world.”
– Judy Collins
“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
“Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglecting.”
– William Shakespeare
“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
– Marilyn Monroe
“I have decided to stick to love; hate is too great a burden to bear.”
– Martin Luther King, Jr.
“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return.”
– Natalie Cole
“I hope you know that every time I tell you to get home safe, stay warm, have a good day, or sleep well what I am really saying is I love you. I love you so damn much that it is starting to steal other words’ meanings. ”
“The greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being.”
– Dalai Lama
“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”
– William Shakespeare
“You call it madness, but I call it love.”
– Don Byas
“We can only learn to love by loving.”
– Iris Murdoch
“A life lived in love will never be dull.”
– Leo Buscaglia
“Life is the flower for which love is the honey.”
– Victor Hugo
“All you need is love.”
– Paul McCartney
“True love stories never have endings.”
– Richard Bach
“Love is shown more in deeds than in words.”
– Saint Ignatius
“Love is not a volunteer thing.”
– Samuel Richardson
“Love is friendship on fire.”
– Susan Sontag
“Love is the ultimate expression of the will to live.”
– Tom Wolfe
“Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.”
– Franklin P. Jones
“The love we give away is the only love we keep.”
– Elbert Hubbard
“Tell me whom you love and I will tell you who you are.”
“Trust your intuition and be guided by love.”
– Charles Eisenstein
“That’s all nonviolence is – organized love.”
– Joan Baez
“We love because it’s the only true adventure.”
– Nikki Giovanni
“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching, Love like you’ll never be hurt, Sing like there’s nobody listening, And live like it’s heaven on earth.”
– William W. Purkey
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”
– Martin Luther King Jr.
“Age does not protect you from love, but love to some extent protects you from age.”
– Jeanne Moreau
“Love is never lost. If not reciprocated, it will flow back and soften and purify the heart.”
– Washington Irving
“Life is the first gift, love is the second, and understanding the third.”
– Marge Piercy
“You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.”
– Barbara De Angelis
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.”
– Elizabeth Gilbert
”I’m here. I love you. I don’t care if you need to stay up crying all night long, I will stay with you. There’s nothing you can ever do to lose my love. I will protect you until you die, and after your death I will still protect you. I am stronger than depression and I am braver than loneliness and nothing will ever exhaust me.”
– Elizabeth Gilbert
“Love is the emblem of eternity; it confounds all notion of time; effaces all memory of a beginning, all fear of an end.”
– Madame de Stael
“Love is an emotion experienced by the many and enjoyed by the few.”
– George Jean Nathan
“Love is more than a noun – it is a verb; it is more than a feeling – it is caring, sharing, helping, sacrificing.”
– William Arthur Ward
“Love is a choice you make from moment to moment.”
– Barbara De Angelis
“We need not think alike to love alike.”
– Francis David
“Love is a great master. It teaches us to be what we never were.”
“Love is the expansion of two natures in such fashion that each include the other, each is enriched by the other.”
– Felix Adler
“Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.”
– Antoine de Saint-Exupery
“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profundity. Kindness in giving creates love.”
– Lao Tzu
“When our community is in a state of peace, it can share that peace with neighboring communities, and so on. When we feel love and kindness towards others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.”
– Dalai Lama
“Love is sharing your popcorn.”
– Charles Schultz
“Love is being stupid together.”
– Paul Valery
“If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?”
– Lily Tomlin
“Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.”
– Albert Einstein
“Love is like pi – natural, irrational, and very important.”
– Lisa Hoffman
“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.”
– Robert Fulghum
“Love is something sent from heaven to worry the hell out of you.”
– Dolly Parton
I Know You. Eye See You. I Understand You.
Come with me to the Garden and Bloom Your Love from Your tears.
Written from words in a dream at 4:23am
Please do not ask me to change for you.
It cannot be done.
I cannot be undone.
I was already taken into the undone while ‘in the more’ I nakedly share.
I write from the deepest of griefs and sufferings to the greatest heights of love and peace.
I cannot undo the path that has taken me there.
I will not undo the path that has taken me there.
The path of Love.
So please don’t ask.
Sometimes in life we have to do what doesn’t look like love, in order to truly love ourselves. We have to love our bodies enough to keep going after they have taken so many hits.
This time when the injection arrived I didn’t have the luxury of staring at the box for two days because it was packed in ice. I didn’t have time to be angry or resentful of the decades that brought me and this body to this moment. I have a choice, We all have a choice at any moment of our being. We always have a choice. I choose Love.
I choose to love my body and help it stay in this world.
Just a little more time I call bonus time and each moment of bonus time I am in gratitude. With that gratitude, I pour into The Loving Garden.
Oops, I did it again! For over 30 years I bought myself flowers.
Whenever I felt alone, on many special occasions, I bought myself flowers. I didn’t really know until a few years ago why I was doing it. I just knew that it made me happier to buy myself flowers.
Then I learned in 2018, why I was acknowledging myself. It was an acknowledgment I waited lifetimes for others to give me.
And with each flower bouquet over the years, I was getting closer to something. I know now, it was self-love. Something nobody could ever give me.
The flowers represented love to me and I began to write myself little flower notes and cards to go along with them. I would sign the cards, “Love Always, Me.”
Now, not only do I live that signature, I now get to pick my own flowers where I am living in love. I picked so many this morning that I laughed at myself.
My Lori, how far you have returned?
And in the courage of your return – the garden of love now blooms to help others on their healing love journey. If you are reading this, please help bloom love on from and for the love that is you.
Others so need your love too. It starts with Self.
I don’t remember what kind of knife it was, I just remember it had a dark handle, a silver blade and it was coming towards me.
I ran as far as I could, which was only about 10 feet because the front door was closed and there was no escaping. The narrow hallway from the kitchen to the front door offered me no refuge. I could not get to the door fast enough and unlock it. And when I reached it..
She reached me.
Wedged between the hinges of the front door and the wall of the hallway, I turned around with my back pushed so far into the corner. I was praying to disappear and have the walls take me in as their own. Upon a split second, the blade was at my throat. I cannot tell you what I was wearing or if I even had shoes on.
I went numb, frozen, the cliche of a deer in headlights is an understatement. I believe I left my body. I could not feel the cold steel on my throat.
The words I heard from the one that held the dark handle of the knife, were garbled like I was underwater, but what I did know was she threatened to kill me.
In that instant, I could never defy her again. I could never stand up knowing the truth. I would always have to do her bidding in order to survive if I didn’t physically die in that moment. I reflect back and know I died in every other way in that corner.
After what felt like years, she stepped back, knife still in hand. I paused, seeing her, but felt blind.
I instinctively turned to the staircase to my left and ran up the stairs to my feet. My hands on the beige carpet of the stairs but I did not feel it. I’m scrambling by memory to my bedroom like I did many times before.
I closed my bedroom door with all my fragile frame weight, and locked it. I was shaking. I didn’t know it then, but my nervous system went into shock and would end up plummeting me into decades of hospitalizations and disease and surgeries in the years to come.
I do not remember how I made it to my bed and under my covers where I had gone many times to escape the pain within these walls I was growing up in.
But this time I knew, there was no escaping the walls and who held me captive. Even beyond the walls, she would find me.
At 11 years old, I became her bitch. I was officially her slave. And so began the loss of my heart, my evolving true identity, and into the darkness and detachment of self I plunged, and I never saw myself again for a long, long time.
That moment took me on a journey for decades into the depths of hell and eventually, as I write this memory 42 years later, it was the journey that took me to the heights of heaven.
I look back and see I fought the bloody war fields to reclaim what was threatened and stalked by a thief in the blackness of night for 4 more decades. The thief after my soul.
Today, I don’t know how I survived. I do know, now this very journey that turned me to ashes over and over took me into the knowing. It took me into the sufferings and excruciating pains of a body not wanting to live. It was only my will, somewhere buried so deep that subconsciously knew there had to be more purpose to this fear, to the suffering, to the endless suffocating pain.
I didn’t know it was my will or where it was determined to go and why.
Now I know what I didn’t, now I always knew. Over the decades, I began to dig at the grave of what was buried.
The grace inside me.
The more I dug into the dirt and darkness, the deeper I went into the unknown that got me in its grasp and refused to let me go.
For over 40 years, I dug down into that blackness of the grave, scratching and clawing with bloody fingers and bleeding heart.
And upon a moment of a final annihilation of yet another storyline of life and death, the final one of my lineage called my mother. I arrived at the bottom of the grave of what was buried, laying in wait for me.
It was still breathing beneath thousands of feet of pain weighing upon it.
It was Me. It was Love.
I reclaimed what a knife or any other suffering could never kill. The love I always was.
The tip of the steel blade at my throat raged a war with love I see now. And while my body could have died while on the brink so many
times in this lifetime and wanted to something would not give me mercy and let me just go and leave this world.
I know now that something was love.
Love never dies even when threatened by the tip of a knife blade, pounded on by verbal shaming and emotional crucifixion, not by calculated mental abuse or the robbing of all I held near and dear.
No. Love would not let me out of it’s grasp because I was it’s SOULdier. I was it’s victim and heroine of our love story.
I somehow would rise by it’s strength of truth and purpose when I didn’t know what it was that kept me coming back from my shattered being over and over.
I dug up the truth. It was not outside myself. It was inside me. I was the grave and the gravedigger.
It was the truth. I went in search for it since that moment of the blade at my throat at my voice at my truth that was rendered silent.
I reclaimed Me. I reclaimed what I was born of no matter who and what told me I was something else.
I am Love. I flew from the bottom of my own grave in Love. I am Freed.
The one who held the knife was not my enemy.
They were my teacher by duality. They have shown me my true strength and courage even while living in fear and tested my will to prove I was more than the pain – and helped me find my greatest healer – Self Love.
The whole journey unto Self was driven unconsciously by Self Love I understand now – wanting me to find it again at all costs. And I paid dearly. All was taken from me and only in my nothingness did I arrive at the bottom of the grave. Where I found my everything.
I know why I am still in this world to write this.
Because for all those that feel they walk alone, lost love on their path or do not feel worthy of it. Felt the blade of a knife upon them literally or metaphorically. I am here to speak and share the Truth. You are not alone. You are not the storyline of the your knife experience. You are what the experience threatened to take away from you. You are Love and I will walk and crawl with you in the darkness and help you dig down deep into the pain to release it and reclaim what awaits for you beyond its purpose. A greater purpose, the truth that you are worthy of Love. You are Love.
And Trust in this Truth I shear herein, You Never Again Walk or Love Alone.
I Love You
My mom had a blank canvas in front of her when she died from Covid in May 2020. In my grief I pulled out my old sketches for The Loving Garden and I took that blank canvas and poured my tears onto the paintbrush to finally bring The Loving Garden into full bloom.
I was never one to color inside the lines. Those lines were so limiting to the canvas of what was possible and is possible.
So I guess you could say I always colored outside the lines which is how I’ve lived.
For if I live in the purpose of love, then life is not limited by any boundary or line and therefore – love is limitless.
I always knew there was a method to my madness, and in finding this truth. This is why I was misunderstood by so many all my life.
Be your own artist- and that blank canvas; That is where your freedom begins…